He’s turning 21 last week, so I decided to make some little cards to accompany the wallet I bought for him. These cards are ‘voucher cards’ which he could redeem with something.
One card could be exchanged with a free treat of choice, other is an ‘upset stamp card’ similar to Starbucks stamp card, where you note down every time I’m being upsetting. After you collect all six, you will get proper hugs and puk puk.
My favorite card is a grant of automatic win if we get into disagreement. We casebuild motions, yes, but we also argue ridiculous things like which one is better; stirred or unstirred bubur. I was all for prettily arranged unstirred ayam suwiran and cakwe, while he thinks the mess of stirred bubur tastes better. (IN WHICH I DONT UNDERSTAND UGH)
We could really go oh-my-gosh-you-just-didnt-say-that, but with this card he could win the argument automatically and I will agree to him and be cool about it. Real present. Phew.
Related: Aisyah’s birthday present of a self made wallet (What’s with me and wallet)
I think these little cards give personal touch to an otherwise dull wallet as a present. Don’t forget to wrap them prettily to add element of surprise your loved one will appreciate!
How do you cope with your emotion?
Humans build their own mechanism to deflect tension and tell their mind that they’re okay. Brave souls confront their fear and leave with permanent scars. Wise beings withdraw ego with solace.
Some people cry their hearts out loud in an empty karaoke room, others prefer to be furious to a gym sandbag. Or person. Or be verbally abusive. My five years old brother do it by pretending to be joyfully happy with his clear round eyes.
I used to deal with any surge of emotion with food. When there’s too much to think, biscuits were the less painful of them all. I wasn’t really aware that it bloats my cheek nor did I care the fact that losing weight will haunt you like hell. I ate four times a day and had snacks like I have no tomorrow. I thought I have no tomorrow.
How do you cope with your tears?
We are taught to believe that tears are for the weak. The advice that you receive when you cry is to ‘stay strong’, as if letting out tears make you a meek weakling. That you shouldn’t cry because that doesn’t solve anything.
But maybe nothing will solve anything.